Monday, February 6, 2012

54. Don't hate ANYthing

 I am the youngest child in my family, I have two sisters and one brother. Somehow I got lucky enough to get the best sisters ever who have taught me so many things over the years. Lessons are hard to learn and really make permanent. One of the many lessons I learned from Michelle is that cussing is never cute, so now cuss words rarely exist in my vocabulary(that's a post for another day). If a cuss word even comes to my mind I literally expect her to reach over to smack me even though I know she's about 4 states away. One thing Angela taught me is that I don't hate anyone or anything. Anytime I said I hated something when she was around she would reply you don't hate anything which never led to a debate.

54. Don't hate anything
Hate is such a strong word. It has caused people to do things, bad things without cause. I never really understood the concept of hating something or someone to the point that you take it upon yourself to eliminate them from existence. There is so many other things in this world that we could use our energy on besides hating something or someone. Disliking something and hating it are two different things. Hate means you would like to see something suffer, hate means you have no compassion, and hate means your indifferent to the line between right and wrong. Hate is an ugly thing that can consume you if you choose to let it. Sucky people hate things. Sucky people hate people. Don't hate anything if you don't want to be a sucky person. Besides love is always prettier no matter how you slice it.

Deep breath....deep breath....sometimes I honestly want to go back to my 15 year old self and tell her that being older is not all that it is cracked up to be. I want to tell her that whatever is bothering her will be nothing compared to the problems she will have in 10 years. It doesn't get easier we just get better at dealing with everything. Kids stay kids for as long as you possibly can.

Thursday, January 26, 2012

53. Unless I offer you my shoes don't try to wear them

I am not afraid to admit that my decision making skills are not the best. I seem to like to do things the hard way. If you graphed my failures next to my successes it would be a very one sided picture. I'm ok with the longest learning process we all will ever have to participate in which is also known as growing up. Living life means we have to take some unavoidable hard hits literally and metaphorically. The amazing thing is were all still here. As long as you got out of bed today and did something that could possibly be called productive then cheers to you because your still in the game.

53. Unless I offer you my shoes don't try to wear them
I will admit I've made bad decisions and I have no problem with accepting the consequences from said decisions. What does piss me off is when somebody tells me step by step what they would've done if they were in my shoes. I'm already fully aware of how bad the decision was I really don't need you to continually express every which possible way you would've done better if you had been in my position. If the words, "If I was in your shoes then I would've done.......," then you suck! Giving your thoughts prior to the decision is advice but throwing out your thoughts after the decision can't be reversed is just useless and patronizing. Do us all a favor is keep your imaginary scenario to yourself because guess what you have one huge benefit that I didn't have which would be my failed experience! Of course you wouldn't do what I did because you obviously already know it doesn't work! Unless your a lemming and have no learning curve then I hope your don't repeat someone elses failed experiment the exact same way and expect a different outcome. So please read this and continue trying not to suck I realize its a daily struggle.

I'm a mess but there is still hope that one day ill be less of a mess then I am today. That's really all I can hope for. Until next time!